"Umugabo agomba gukeka ibyifuzo byumugore"
Oya, ntagomba. Nibura, rwose ntabwo ari muburiri. Hano abafatanyabikorwa barangana, kandi bagira uruhare rw'umuganwakazi, igihe cyo kugahita kigomba gukeka ijisho ry'ijisho, bwa mbere, ibicucu, na kabiri, na kabiri. Abagabo bake barashobora kwihanganira imyitwarire mu buriri igihe kirekire kandi bakabona umusimbura uhitamo umukunzi wa demokarasi no gushimira.
"Reka tuzimire urumuri"
Iyi nteruro yerekana ko umugore atera umubiri we. Muri icyo gihe, abakobwa benshi ntibamenyekana ko umugabo hafi agereranya ko ariwe ubona iyo umufatanyabikorwa atandukanijwe. Niba ibi atari imibonano mpuzabitsina itabibona, umuntu birashoboka cyane ko abona imyaka no kubaho kw'abana, gufata no kugaburira bisiga ikimenyetso cye kumubiri wumugore.
Abagabo benshi bakunda amaso yabo, babarebe umukunzi ushimishije, birashimishije, kandi ntibitondera amakosa mato. Ntamuntu numwe mwiza.
"Sinumva icyo utanyuzwe"
Aya magambo avuga ko umugore atazi mugenzi we kandi birashoboka cyane ko atashaka kumenya. Hagati aho, ni ngombwa kwiyubaha, birakenewe kubona byibuze igitekerezo cyagereranijwe cya psychologiya yumugabo kandi, byumwihariko, kumenya imitekerereze yabagabo. Niba umufatanyabikorwa akomeje kunyurwa, noneho ibice byose byimibanire bizababara. Niba umugabo adakunda umwanya umugore uhitamo, imyitwarire ye muburiri, abaherekeje cyangwa ibisobanuro birambuye kandi uku kwikuramo ibinyabiziga, umubano w'Abo bombi. Nibyiza, cyangwa ayobora nyirabuja akaje.
"Urashaka ute?"
Nibyo, umufatanyabikorwa wumudepite arashobora kubaza iyi ngingo cyangwa isa. Ariko biracyari byinshi, nkuko imyitozo abigaragaza, abagore bazi kwinezeza kandi bakore ubwabo, ntibabaza ibibazo bimwe, ariko bagerageza kubona imyanya itandukanye, ahantu, imikino, kugenda ... mugihe babonye icyo kandi mbega ukuntu abagabo benshi muri bose. Hanyuma hanyuma uyikoreshe. Byongeye kandi, ikibazo cyerekanwe mugihe gikwiye gishobora kwangiza ibinezeza byose.
"Sinzagerageza"
Ntabwo abantu bose bakunda lash hamwe nigitambara cyuruhu hamwe nabanyego, kandi ntabwo buri mugore azemera ko umukunzi we yari muburiri. Kugoreka mugenzi wawe, birumvikana ko bidakwiye. Ariko ntidukwiye kwibagirwa ko bitinde bitebuke, igitsina icyo ari cyo cyose, ndetse nubwambere ubanza, kiba mushya, niba atari ugukora ibintu bitandukanye. Icyifuzo cyinzirakarengane cyumufatanyabikorwa, nubwo kitagutera umunezero muriwe, ariko ntibirenze, birakwiye kandi kubitekerezaho. Niba ahora arota gukora urukundo mu bwiherero mubirori cyangwa ahora atangira kuryama mugihe ashobora kubona umubiri wawe, turagusaba cyane ko ubikora. Amaherezo, urumuri rushobora gukorwa mucfled, kandi valve kumuryango wubwiherero bwinshuti ni ugufunga neza.
"Ntabwo nkunda ibikinisho"
Nko mu rubanza rwabanje, byose biterwa nigikinisho. Ntabwo ari bibi cyane, kandi ibinezeza birashobora gutanga byinshi. Gukoresha amapingu amwe bizagufasha guha umufatanyabikorwa iminota itazibagirana aramutse arota yumva imbaraga zawe. Ntabwo nifuza kubabaza umuntu, ariko niba unyanze cyane ubushakashatsi nkaya, noneho, birashoboka cyane, uri umunebwe cyangwa ubunebwe cyane kugirango wite kubyifuzo bya mugenzi wawe. Turakwibutsa ko abagabo badagoye kubona umusimbura wumugore, umubano nibyishimo batazana.
"Nibyiza kumenya mbere uwo nkunda icyo"
Tumaze kuvuga ko nyirabuja mwiza ashoboye kwimenyereza mubikorwa ko ari nkumufatanyabikorwa. Nshobora gutangira ibiganiro birambiranye bisa namasomo yuburiganya? Birashimishije cyane kumenya byose, gukora muburyo butaziguye. Niba kandi umwe mu bitabiriye amahugurwa adakunda ibi cyangwa ko na we, arashobora kuceceka kuri uyu mukunzi kuri uhko. Kandi igihe, uziga gusobanukirwa nta magambo.
"Kuki hageragejwe?"
Noneho, bitinde bitebuke, gahunda yica byose, niyo nziza. Byongeye kandi, kwanga kugerageza, uhura nabi ingaruka mbi icyo, nkuko bigenda, bizatwara inyanja mu buryo butaziguye. Niba ufite impamvu imwe cyangwa ubundi, hari ubwoba bwo kwiyambaza imitekerereze cyangwa ubuhanga buzafasha kugabanya impagarara.