"Indoda Imele Iqinile Iminqweno Yowesifazane"
Hayi, akufuneki. Ubuncinci, ngokuqinisekileyo akelala ebhedini. Apha amahlakani ayalingana, kwaye adlale indima yenkosazana, eyomhlophe ingekafiki kufuneka iqikelele i-elashes ye-elashes, okokuqala, isidenge, kwaye iyingozi. Bambalwa abantu abanokumelana nokunxiba okunjalo ebhedini ixesha elide kwaye bafumane indawo yokukhetha iqabane ledemokhrasi elininzi.
"Masicime ukukhanya"
Ibinzana libonisa ukuba lo mfazi uyawudambisa umzimba wakhe. Kwangelo xesha, amantombazana amaninzi angaqapheli ukuba umntu omamela ukuba ngulowo ubona xa iqabane lahlulwe. Ukuba le ayisiyosondo ngokuzenzekelayo nomntu ongamaziyo, indoda inokwenzeka ukuba inokwenzeka ukuba ubudala kunye nobukho babantwana, ukukhwela kunye nokondliwa kwayo kushiya uphawu lwayo kumzimba wababhinqileyo.
Uninzi lwamadoda luyawathanda amehlo abo, bababukele iqabane elimnandi, lonwabela, kwaye abanakekela iziphoso ezincinci. Akukho mntu ulungele ngokwenene.
"Andiqondi ukuba ungonelisekanga '
La mazwi athi umntu obhinqileyo akalazi iqabane lakhe kwaye angekafumani ukwazi. Okwangoku, nayiphi na intlonipho, kuyafuneka ukuba ubuncinci ingcinga yengqondo yengqondo yengqondo kwaye, ngakumbi, ukuze sazi i-psychology yesini yamadoda. Ukuba iqabane lihlala lingonelisekanga, zonke iindawo zolwalamano lwesibini ziya kubandezeleka. Ukuba indoda ayiyithandi isikhundla sokuba ibhinqa likhetha, indlela awayeziphethe ngayo ebhedini, i-ensuritine okanye iinkcukacha zenkqubo kunye nolwalamano lwesibini olwenziwe. Ewe, okanye uzikhokela unenkosikazi enoburharha.
"Ungathanda njani?"
Ewe kunjalo, iqabane lomqhubi linokubuza eli binzana. Kodwa ngoku rhoqo, njengokuziqhelanisa nemidlalo, abafazi abayaziyo indlela abaziyolisa ngayo kwaye bangazalisi imibuzo eyongezelelweyo, kodwa bazama nje ukufumana indawo eyahlukileyo, ngelixa Hayi indlela abathi baninzi ngayo uninzi lwayo. Emva koko uyisebenzise. Ukongeza, umbuzo ochazwe kwinqanaba elingafanelekanga uyakwazi ukuchitha lonke ulonwabo.
"Andizukuzama"
Asinguye wonke umntu othanda impukane kunye nelineni yesikhumba kunye ne-spikes, kwaye ayinguye wonke umfazi oya kuvuma intombi yakhe ebhedini. Ukunyanzelisa iqabane lakho, ngokuqinisekileyo, akufuneki. Kodwa akufuneki silibale ukuba kungekudala, nasiphi na isini, nokuba oyena mntu unomdla ekuqaleni, uba mtsha, ukuba ungakhange wenze iintlobo. Umnqweno omsulwa weqabane, nokuba ayibangeli mincili kuwe, kodwa ayidluli ngaphaya koko, kukwakufanelekile ukuba uqaphele. Ukuba wayesoloko ephupha ngokwenza uthando kwigumbi lokuhlambela kwitheko okanye uhlala eqala isohlwayo xa ebona umzimba wakho, sincoma kakhulu ukuba uyenzile. Ekugqibeleni, ukukhanya kunokwenziwa okuphezulu, kwaye ivalve emnyango kwigumbi lokuhlambela labahlobo likufutshane.
"Andizithandi iithoyi"
Njengakwimeko yangaphambili, konke kuxhomekeke kwinto yokudlala. Azinabungozi, kwaye iziyolo zinokuhambisa kakhulu. Ukusetyenziswa kweziphatho ezifanayo kuya kukunceda unike iqabane ngemizuzu yobuhlungu engalibalekiyo ukuba wayehlala ephupha ngokuziva enamandla akho. Andifuni kukhathazeka nabani na, kodwa ukuba ukhubaze ubuchule obunje, ke, kunokuba njalo, uyinto enobuhlungu kakhulu okanye ivila kakhulu ukuba inyamekele iminqweno yeqabane. Siyakukhumbuza ukuba amadoda ahlala engakufumani ukufumana indawo yomfazi, ulwalamano lungazisiyo.
"Kungcono ukwazi kwangaphambili ukuba ndithanda ntoni"
Sele sikhankanye ukuba imbeko elungileyo iyakwazi ukufumanisa ukuba ifana neqabane. Ngaba kufuneka ndiqalise incoko yokufunda efana nezifundo zesondo? Kunomdla ngakumbi ukufumanisa yonke into, ukwenza ngqo yinkqubo ngokwayo. Kwaye ukuba omnye wabathathi-nxaxheba akayithandi le okanye loo nto okanye enye, unokuthi ajikeleze ngeli qabane kwi-ushko. Kwaye ekuhambeni kwexesha, uya kufunda ukuqondana ngaphandle kwamazwi.
"Kutheni ulingelo?"
Emva koko, kungekudala, i-supines ibulala yonke into, nokuba yeyona ilungileyo. Ukongeza, ukwala iimvavanyo, uya kubabeka emngciphekweni into, njengoko ivela, iya kuthatha ulwandle lwakho lolonwabo ngqo kuwe. Ukuba unesinye isizathu okanye enye, kukho uloyiko lweemvakalelo ezintsha, kuya kuba kuhle ukubhenela kwi-psychologist okanye ingcali eya kuthi incede ukunciphisa uxinzelelo.