I-JKL ngumboniso owenziwe njengenxalenye ye-velo vele i-livin chartity ("phila"). Kufanele ukuba ibe nezemidlalo kunye nokunxiba okwenziwe ngabantu. UMateyu uvumile ukuba wazama ukwenza ingqokelela yengqokelela, esebenzayo neyabantu abaninzi: "Andithandi ukufihla rhoqo. Ndikhetha ukunxiba into eza kufanelekile nangaliphi na ixesha lemini: emsebenzini, xa uhamba, ngexesha lesidlo sasemini. Ndingathanda ukulahla zonke izinto ezisemthethweni ngokweshedyuli, kwaye zilungele nakuphi na ukuguqulwa kweziganeko. Into yokuqala endiyibhalileyo, ebonisa ingqokelela, yayiyindawo "yasehlathini." Ewe kunjalo, luyinto yokuqalisa, kodwa umbono lo ulandelayo. "
UMcConaha wongeze ukuba wazama ukuthathela ingqalelo yonke impahla yengqokelela yamadoda kwiqokelela: "Ukuba unxiba ihempe yamaqhosha, kunokubande kakhulu ukuba unxibe iliso. Ezinye zixinene kakhulu emagxeni. Ezinye ibhulukhwe zimfutshane kakhulu, ezinye zibonakala zilungile xa usiya, kodwa baphosa iintshukumo ezinzulu, umzekelo, xa bekhwele ibhayisekile. "